The Enforcer Paradigm

When someone actually likes themself and you force feed them that they shouldn't like themself, then pretty much anything they do from there on out is going to be better for them than what you're doing to them. Why should someone force feed (or force upon) anyone something they don't want and didn't ask for?

The excuse is usually derived from calling upon some force (nature, God, sin, Existence, etc.) a person perceives as bigger and better than them (very possibly their own hubris, loathing or pride) and you on the basis of believing they should call upon such things.

When I write, "anything they do from there on out is going to be better for them than what you're doing to them," I mean whatever they do for themselves will be more profound for them. Which is to say more meaningful to and for their experience than your (the proverbial your, unless the shoe fits) oppression is.

At least until a peak experiential point. At the point that: 

• A. The force-fed one recognizes they've been force-fed and realizes they not only can, but are actually existentially FREE to like themselves regardless of what has been put upon them erroneously 

AND 

• B. The formerly force-fed one realizes that just like they can feel in their own interest, they can also act in their own interest and do so accordingly 

The force-fed one is now informed enough to "take back their life" by choosing differently than they've been taught from there on out. They are now further into their awareness that they are in direct relationship with Existence regardless of what has been reflected to them by others. 

This where the shit gets tricky tho. Because in an oppressive/abusive dynamic the trained reflex is to take the position of the authority within the circumstances you are in to prevent yourself from being the target of the dynamic. The position of authority is presented as binary. Oppression and abuse are characterized as necessary aspects of behavior in humanity that one "has to use" lest such things "be used against them." 

So when you're socialized in an o/a dynamic the position of authority is constructed as that of an abusers. The trick is that one abuses from a place of self-loathing. The self is not simply physical, not simply emotional, not simply intelligent. The self is all those things (in whatever quantities) and more.

Regardless of whether the abuser claims the authority to abuse because they imply they are "stronger, more intelligent or more ethical;" the abusers need to enforce such things (further) in the world and, namely, to do the very behavior that makes such things a part of their personal world, is evidence that they are harboring self-loathing on an existential level. Nobody has to be a way they don’t prefer of their own accord.

To truly understand this Enforcer Paradigm and the systems it has helped create you must know this trick. Because what we accept and how we explain our acceptance of it to ourselves (first and foremost) is the very basis of what we understand. However, knowing is synonymous with action.

You must act from knowing that this is the trick and not take this trick for granted. It is subtle and invasive to be self-loathing and anyone can exhibit it at any time if they don't appreciate the livable reality of that. To believe anything that already exists doesn't have a right to exist is self-loathing. Projection is one of the primary belief tools that self-loathing exhibits through its host person. If you want the freedom and the right to be who and what you are to yourself, how can you (fundamentally) deny anyone else that right?

We, ourselves, live in the constructs, structures, systems and social dynamics of the self-loathing human. We are subject to the subtle invasiveness of the very trick I am bringing attention to. This is the man behind the curtain. So that peak experiential point/threshold I'm referring to in "who is better/righter/the authority" between force-feeder and force-fed is actually knowing better. Living as knowing better. Acting like you know because you know as you act.

Knowing is present. To know better than the oppressor is to not become like them. To not become like them you have to realize that the oppressor/oppression isn't necessary to your ongoing narrative(s) about yourself, life and others. That for you, those are things of your past even if they still exist in the world because others choose to use them. Not deciding to control others, but doing your utmost to decide for yourself. To not become like the oppressor is to not do the things the oppressor(s) thinks is necessary for them to prosper.

Deciding something or someone isn’t necessary TO YOU is not the same as deciding something or someone is meaningless or unpurposeful to the world or for it/themself. Helping someone come to the realization that you are not for them simply by being what/who you are (and vice versa) is very meaningful. Things can be as meaningful in their absence, if not more so. Knowing this means not needing to oppress others/other things OUT OF EXISTENCE simply because you don’t prefer them.

Rather than needing them to not exist, you just realize you are free to go away from what you don't prefer of your own volition, whenever you encounter what you don’t prefer. What you don’t prefer acts as a natural buffer and alarm system at the borders of your preferences. Because what you don't prefer exists, you have an even greater sense of direction of where you should be going: TOWARDS WHAT YOU DO PREFER AND AWAY FROM WHAT YOU DON’T PREFER (to the best of your ability and as possible, obviously). 

If what you don’t prefer didn’t exist, how would you know about it to not prefer it? Who would you be without it? Because once you know that you can live without something—where knowing is synonymous WITH ACTION—you can be exactly who you prefer to be by living without that thing as the center of your attention. Instead it can exist as it already does, out there in the periphery of your preference. Far away from you of your own accord and volition whenever possible.

This is where the Black Proverb "mind your business" becomes essential. Is your business the same business of the oppressor? If not, why should you run into the oppressor in any significant frequency? If the oppressor is self-loathing and fundamentally wrong ON THAT POINT (their own self-loathing) ALONE, why make that your business of YOUR OWN ACCORD? Why should you give them mind ON YOUR OWN TIME? Your own time is any time you are doing what you prefer to do and Existence doesn’t present you with the opportunity to do something else by presenting you with something else in your physical experience.

What is not my business, I don’t do. I am always working towards what is my business and away from what is not my business. I am always learning what is, in fact, not my business. We shouldn't do with others what they wouldn't do with themselves or have done to them by anyone else. If someone doesn’t prefer to be self aware and I prefer to be self aware, there is nothing to do with them but be myself. But since myself is not about them, being myself naturally conducts me away from them as well.

It's one thing when something that you recognize as not your business happens to show up right in front of you and Existence has given you the opportunity to address this phenomenon directly and in accord with whatever philosophy you have taken up once having rid yourself of being force-fed as a way of life. It's another thing to center what isn't your business voluntarily when the oppressor has made a lifestyle out of not wanting to be their own business by making your business important to them.

The best revenge is moving past the life that taught you that you needed revenge. The best revenge is living a life that you prefer on your own terms. The best revenge is forgetting that revenge even has a purpose. People who are self-loathing fundamentally and existentially DO NOT KNOW THIS. They believe, on some level, that life itself is revenge. For what? For existing. To me, this makes no sense at all. I cannot live inside of constructs that are unsustainable because they invalidate their own purpose and thereby disorder themselves.

So I am myself, on as consistent a basis as I am able to conduct myself, far away from what I don’t prefer on the most fundamental level: OF MY OWN VOLITION. If things come up to be addressed, I don’t deny them. But if things don’t come up to be addressed, I don’t seek to address them either. I simply match Existence’s energy to the best of my ability as and while I mind my own business.

* Screenshots of words taken from www.etymonline.com